Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.
May 3, 2013
Super Mom is a Fairy Tale
Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do no grow weary, (Galatians 6:9, NIV).
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Don’t you just detest those mothers who seem to have it all together? You know her: super-mom. She is that mythical creature who never yells at her kids. Whose house is always spotless, whose children always obey quickly and quietly, who prepares three meals a day that are nutritious and aesthetically pleasing…the one who is a “successful” mother.
If there is anything that can discourage a hard working mom, it is comparing herself to this creature, which only exists in storybooks. If we think someone is a super-mom, most likely her cape is ripped, her tights are tattered, and her special powers to get her kids to act right got lost in a cluttered closet somewhere. I can assure you that every mother who appears to breeze effortlessly through life has struggles of her own.
When I taught my husband to snow ski, I showed him how to turn his skis toward the side of the mountain to slow down. Inevitably he turned too much to the left or right and ended up with his skis pointing up the mountain. He then proceeded to slide down the mountain backwards. After a few trials and lots of error, he discovered that when he turned, if he just continued turning his skis, making a complete circle, it would slow him down and he wouldn’t end up going down hill backwards.
It was a sight to behold, but it worked. At the end of the day, a woman came up to Steve and asked if he could show her how to make those “beautiful circles.” Of course he obliged. She thought he was an expert skier who was doing some form of acrobatics. In actuality, he was going in circles, doing whatever it took to keep from going down hill, backwards.
When you look around and see other mothers who appear to be “mothering” better than you, don’t be fooled. They are probably doing whatever it takes not to go downhill backwards.
Successful mothers are not the ones who have never struggled. They are the ones who never give up, despite the struggles.